Personally, I have like a low self-esteem. I'm not a super girl who is confident and secure of herself and goes around the world as if she has owned everything in life. I've been having a more and a more low self - esteem. It was hard for me, it was like I wasn't the same person anymore. And now, little by little I'm trying to realize that it's not worth it, you know?. Being cold, and harsh with people I love and care it's something quite contradictory. But really, I was behaving like that just because I had a low self- esteem, i'ts surprising how you can change with some little details!... I thought everyone was against me so that's why I changed my behaviour, to a very undesirable one.
Anyway, I suppose I'm here to suggest you some ideas in order to overcome out self- esteem.
It is thought that the more positive feelings you have about yourself, the higher your self-esteem is; the more negative feelings you have the lower your self-esteem is. Our materialist world, where people continually compare themselves with those around them, highlights our insecurities and often leads us to feel negative about ourselves and the way we live. We lose sight of the value of our own individuality and then feel inadequate and unsatisfied. As a consequence, we might change our behaviour, personality or even our lifestyle.
Symptoms of low self-esteem:
.feeling worthless
.feeling incompetent and unrealistic about our abilities
.feeling unloved
.being overwhelmed with fear and negative thoughts
.being unrealistic about goals
.being drawn into destructive relationships
.fear of change distorted views of self and others.
Our esteem develops from our experiences and relationships from birth. Negative experiences and troubled relationships lower it, and good experiences and strong bonds raise it. No single event or person determines your level of self-esteem, it develops over time and can change with time and events.
Healthy self-esteem allows people to be realistic about goals, accept criticism, learn from mistakes and be adventurous but not reckless. Low self-esteem makes people fearful and unrealistic about goals and risks, which further dents their self-image. They also compare themselves unfavourably with others and have little natural ability to protect themselves.
So... what can we do to overcome it?
Change might mean taking a hard look at oneself and feeling strong enough to change the things that we don’t like.
The route to higher self-esteem, and thinking more positively about yourself includes:
.Acceptance – of your true strengths and weaknesses
.Help – with realistic goals to allow you to develop your abilities
.Encouragement –with realistic planning and timetabling
.Praise – for your achievements so you can enjoy them
.Respect – to be proud of who you are
.Trust – feel more confident in your own thoughts and feelings
.Time - learn to know yourself and enjoy your own thoughts.
Self-esteem is not the same as self-centredness. It does not mean you are selfish or egotistical but it does allow you to appreciate the qualities you do have and respond to others in a positive and productive way. It can help you feel better about yourself and better abut others around you.
Raising your own self-esteem means that you will learn to be your own best friend, good internal parent or guardian angel. It means feeling good and realistic about yourself and others but does not guarantee success in the world. Through thinking more positively and realistically about yourself you can develop your talents and abilities, praise yourself, trust yourself and like yourself. When you become more tolerant of the real you your relationships can improve as you become more realistic about others, too.
Keep strong ♥ I'm sure we all can do it. I've experienced the same thing and I have to say that I'm still more or less in the same situation.... YOU HAVE TO LET YOURSELF LEARN FROM YOUR OWN EXPERIENCES WHETHER THEY'RE POSITIVE OR NEGATIVE... THEY ALL WORTH IT TO KEEP ON LIVING ... ♥ ♥ ♥
Lots of love
Han xx
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